Nita, on Friendships

I think people are scared to talk to you when you have cancer, but I am a realist and I will talk about death any day. How I feel, what I want, what I can't do.

Nita, on Parenting

Basically when something does come down to the final hoo rah. I will say that, because my motto has been, what better reward can we have, then to go to heaven?

Nita, on Friendships

Just for today, laugh out loud, sing a song, be assertive, be silly, be happy, be strong. Just for today do it all once and then if you liked it tomorrow do it all once again. Sometimes it's easiest just to think about one day at a time. Isn't that beautiful?

Nita, on Lifestyle

I love to sew, but my real passion lays outdoors with my plants. They're my pets.

Nita, on Lifestyle

On Mothers Day, remember that she is the single most important person in your life! What would she want from you? It's simple. A gesture of love! No matter your relationship, write a note, let her hear your voice, visit her if possible. No need for flowers, elaborate gifts or cards. Make it Simple and heartfelt!

Nita, on Friendships

I'm remembering friends I have lost to cancer during the past year and a half. Each and every one of these beautiful women will always have a place in my heart! We were friends who encouraged one another! I still am inspired by them and will continue on my journey as long as possible as they did. Amy, April, Lisa and Susan, rest in peace!

Nita, on Self-care

Days go by so quickly for some and not so quickly for others. Try to remember to take a moment and cheer up someone in the days ahead. One day you may be that person waiting for a card, call or visit. We all can make those moments if only we strive to do so. I'm enjoying cutting some rosebuds today from the yard. They came back from the freeze!

Nita, on Lifestyle

Albert Einstein said: " In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity." I have pondered on this and I surely can understand this profound remark. You can find an opportunity in your cancer journey. Friends we have met and may never see again were opportunities to know and love fellow patients.New friends are always on the horizon.

Nita, on Lifestyle

"I'm Here. That's the miracle I've been waiting for." A quote by Brian Vaszilly"Where there is Life, there's Hope." A quote by CiceroWhen I wake each morning, it is a miracle for me and there is hope for another morning. Robin Roberts said," It's about focusing on the fight, not the fright." She did not fear conquer her. Neither should you.

Nita, on Lifestyle

Cancer has truly changed my world! I miss my career in real estate sales, I miss being able to plant and care for my beautiful flowers, I miss being able to bring my groceries in without a struggle, running up the stairs, going out after six pm, writing legibly, browsing the department stores, etc. I truly know I will never be the person I once was.

Nita, on Self-care

Taking care of yourself is important during the cancer journey. Get up and keep going as much as you can. Be proactive. Know your medication. Review your scan results. Search clinical trials with your oncologist. Encourage others understand not to give up🌹

Nita, on Body

When my hair was gone for several years, I wanted to hide the fact that I was bald. Then I decided to venture out. One lady came across the room to tell me how brave I was, another said she admired me but could never to it! Interesting comments!

Nita, on Lifestyle

Sitting in a lovely Bed and Breakfast on Tybee Island, Georgia... wishing I could be out on the beach!! Some things you just cannot do when cancer has been with you for years. In my case..almost 13years! It spoils so many things, but yet we can still be alive!πŸ”

Nita, on Lifestyle

Since having cancer, my thoughts drifted to special cousins and classmates I had not seen or talked with in a very long time. I have now connected with several and have enjoyed hearing about their lives and the lives of their children and grandchildren.Reach out to yours and share this site as you have the opportunity.

Nita, on Self-care

C.C. Scott said "The Human spirit is stronger that anything that can happen to it." Please share on this platform how having cancer has made your spirit stronger, because I know it has mine! Share with others, including spouses, parents, caregivers and siblings.

Nita, on Self-care

I have NO cure. I have Triple Negative Metastatic Breast Cancer. I have outlived my prognosis. My side effects are very annoying, but I deal with them. I know we all want to throw in the towel sometimes, but we must pull the string back on the arrow and move forward as best we can. This site is a tremendous way for us to share!

Nita, on Friendships

There is nothing like a support group on this journey. Just this morning, a patient friend and I were venting to one another and in the end, we had calmed each other down. My group are fellow patients whom I just started talking with in the lobby while waiting for treatment..now good friends!

Nita, on Self-care

Four words that changed my life: You have breast cancer. What an awful day that was for me in 2006. Please join this site and tell others about your journey or just lift another person up with a word of encouragement. It will in turn, lift your spirits.

Nita, on Mindfulness

When the sun sets each day, I pray for a good night's rest and that I be allowed tomorrow, if it is His will. In the morning, I thank him for another day to be productive in some way. Each day is another day closer to more drugs being found to help us on our journey with cancer. πŸ™ Just hold on!!

Nita, on Self-care

Accepting the reality of having cancer is hard to grasp, but we must find the courage to move forward one day at a time and sometimes one second at a time. Having triple negative metastatic cancer for years now, I find that prayers and determination is what has kept me going. Support of family and friends is very important also.

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How can we stay strong when our days are so hard? We all cope in our own way. Me? Mindset..get positive and set goals to look forward to. Talk to friends that understand and share your emotions. The words, I can't have to disappear! Hard? Yes. Write a story here. It will help you, I promise.

Nita, on Mindfulness

Don't forget that you are Human. It is okay to have a meltdown. Just do not unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed. Each morning is a new beginning on our cancer journey. Make plans to do positive things. Mental health is important for us and the mind can be trained.

Nita, on Mindfulness

Life's beauty is here for all our eyes to see. Nothing makes me any happier at this time of the year than to sit out and admire the trees and flowers. Visiting a park makes serenity flow into your body. Watching a fountain flow into the pond reminds me that life keeps going...never stops...with us or without us .

Nita, on Mindfulness

"Above all, cancer is a spiritual practice that teaches me about faith and resilience" - Kris Carr Research is so very important to find new treatments for us with triple negative metastatic breast cancer which at this time is incurable. There will come a day when all cancers will have meds to help you.

Nita, on Self-care

It's always a bit scary waiting to hear scan results. Don't fret too much as they will be what they will be. You adapt to good news with a smile and a thumbs up. Bad news is a different story, but you adapt to whatever has to be done to help you and go forward. Never a step back. It's like an arrow...thrusts forward...stay strong.

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I have shared so much on this site and I have to wonder if anyone has seen what I posted. If you have, please let me know. email address: nitahaynes2014@aol.com

Nita, on Self-care

Another year is just around the corner!! I really have to pinch myself to even believe I am still on my journey. Being diagnosed in 2006, it has been a long journey!! You learn to just take baby steps to do what you want or need to do in the day you have.

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