A friend of mine said to me recently, 'Have you always been this positive?' Which I thought was a funny reaction to a conversation where I was being what I think of as my pretty cynical self. But I think what he was noting was my level of acceptance … and I just can't use all the emotional energy to be angry or frustrated.
I think a lot in my work as a therapist, I had always incorporated a lot of mindfulness techniques to the patients who might be receptive so I did a lot of meditation, I started journaling. And reflecting just a lot on where I am now, what this means to me and what’s next … Because the unknown is too big of a monster to get tangled up in.
I said, 'How do I know I'm stressed because I don't feel stressed?' She said, 'You are really stressed.' She said, 'How many times a day do you either think or say the word asshole?' I was like, 'Oops.' … She said, "You need to really get rid of the assholes." I realized I had to get rid of all the cancers in my life, not just the one in my breast.
I got in the car and I didn't really know where I was going. I had no plans. I drove to the beach. I shut my phone off and I just parked in Atlantic City, on a random street, and just walked a lot … I actually have a sea shell that I picked up that day that I have still and I carried it with me for every chemo. I just needed me time.
You still have bad minutes, bad hours, even bad days. You just can't live there. You can't stay there. Everyone should allow themselves ... I think people feel bad allowing themselves to have bad days. If there's a day you need to just lay in bed all day or lock yourself in your room and play your music or block everybody out it's okay but then tomorrow you can't do that.
I had never heard of TNBC. I knew there was breast cancer, but I did not know the complexity and how many different kinds of breast cancer there were within the actual diagnosis.
After 30 years of real estate, I put the smile on every morning regardless of what was going on in my family life, and I kept going. That's what I do today.
I had always focused on everybody else and always focused on my kids and my wasband and everybody. I was the super woman of the world taking care of everybody. I knew I had to stop and focused on me.
I am at @SXSW today and meeting so many people with cancer stories. They are so exited about Humanly because they want to share stories and connect with others. I am so happy and proud to be part of this movement to help people live their best life.
I was surrounded by my family and friends that watched over me, prayed for me, took me to appts and kept me going emotionally. They just showed up because they knew I would never ask for help. I couldn’t have made it through without them. I started a club of them: SMAD: Sistas Making a Difference. We take care of each other and celebrate life.
I was diagnosed with Stage 4 Breast Cancer on December 6,2013. I was having neck pain for almost a year and thought it was just arthritis or a pinched nerve. I had no idea the words I would hear next would be I had 1 of three possible causes. Arthritis, osteoporosis or Cancer. My story begins there.
Our son Jake was diagnosed with a rare brain tumor at the age of 2. Jake taught us that no matter what the circumstance is, we have to live in the now. Even when the now seems ordinary, and quiet …
July 3rd, 2 years ago, my husband has been having discomfort in his stomach...not wanting to go...since 4th of July next day. I am insistent. Our nightmare begins. He is immediately sent to hospital with a tumor diagnosis. 4th of July is spent in 6 hrs. In surgery to remove mass in his stomach. They are sure they removed all tumor...radiation to begin.
Tigerlily Foundation is excited to host its Metastatic Breast Cancer Disparities Listening Summit on 3/20, solely focused on convening and igniting a national conversation focusing on the African-American community, centered on understanding the gaps, misperceptions and barriers to educating young women of color on metastatic breast cancer.