A friend of mine said to me recently, 'Have you always been this positive?' Which I thought was a funny reaction to a conversation where I was being what I think of as my pretty cynical self. But I think what he was noting was my level of acceptance … and I just can't use all the emotional energy to be angry or frustrated.
I think a lot in my work as a therapist, I had always incorporated a lot of mindfulness techniques to the patients who might be receptive so I did a lot of meditation, I started journaling. And reflecting just a lot on where I am now, what this means to me and what’s next … Because the unknown is too big of a monster to get tangled up in.
I said, 'How do I know I'm stressed because I don't feel stressed?' She said, 'You are really stressed.' She said, 'How many times a day do you either think or say the word asshole?' I was like, 'Oops.' … She said, "You need to really get rid of the assholes." I realized I had to get rid of all the cancers in my life, not just the one in my breast.
I got in the car and I didn't really know where I was going. I had no plans. I drove to the beach. I shut my phone off and I just parked in Atlantic City, on a random street, and just walked a lot … I actually have a sea shell that I picked up that day that I have still and I carried it with me for every chemo. I just needed me time.
You still have bad minutes, bad hours, even bad days. You just can't live there. You can't stay there. Everyone should allow themselves ... I think people feel bad allowing themselves to have bad days. If there's a day you need to just lay in bed all day or lock yourself in your room and play your music or block everybody out it's okay but then tomorrow you can't do that.
I had never heard of TNBC. I knew there was breast cancer, but I did not know the complexity and how many different kinds of breast cancer there were within the actual diagnosis.
After 30 years of real estate, I put the smile on every morning regardless of what was going on in my family life, and I kept going. That's what I do today.
I had always focused on everybody else and always focused on my kids and my wasband and everybody. I was the super woman of the world taking care of everybody. I knew I had to stop and focused on me.
I am at @SXSW today and meeting so many people with cancer stories. They are so exited about Humanly because they want to share stories and connect with others. I am so happy and proud to be part of this movement to help people live their best life.
I was surrounded by my family and friends that watched over me, prayed for me, took me to appts and kept me going emotionally. They just showed up because they knew I would never ask for help. I couldn’t have made it through without them. I started a club of them: SMAD: Sistas Making a Difference. We take care of each other and celebrate life.
I was diagnosed with Stage 4 Breast Cancer on December 6,2013. I was having neck pain for almost a year and thought it was just arthritis or a pinched nerve. I had no idea the words I would hear next would be I had 1 of three possible causes. Arthritis, osteoporosis or Cancer. My story begins there.
Our son Jake was diagnosed with a rare brain tumor at the age of 2. Jake taught us that no matter what the circumstance is, we have to live in the now. Even when the now seems ordinary, and quiet …
July 3rd, 2 years ago, my husband has been having discomfort in his stomach...not wanting to go...since 4th of July next day. I am insistent. Our nightmare begins. He is immediately sent to hospital with a tumor diagnosis. 4th of July is spent in 6 hrs. In surgery to remove mass in his stomach. They are sure they removed all tumor...radiation to begin.
Tigerlily Foundation is excited to host its Metastatic Breast Cancer Disparities Listening Summit on 3/20, solely focused on convening and igniting a national conversation focusing on the African-American community, centered on understanding the gaps, misperceptions and barriers to educating young women of color on metastatic breast cancer.
Had the honor of spending the morning with Lauren from Humanly. We got to spread the word about this digital platform on Channel 12 news. It airs on April 27th and May 4th. Check it out here and be sure to listen to my stories and share your own. We are all here to help! https://bit.ly/2WKsUpC
As another Mother's Day approaches I have the same feelings I have towards almost all holidays. Happiness to be alive, sadness for those who aren't, pain for those currently in treatment, and worry if I will make it to the next Mother's Day. I will take a moment in all of the chaos of the day and be thankful to have this time with my family.
My mother used to always tell me "there's a silver lining in every cloud" and the older I get, the more challenges I overcome, the more I believe it to be true. And despite how difficult the silver lining may be to find, even her loss brought light to things I wouldn't have otherwise seen.
Christianna, on Self-care
Losing my mother to cancer taught me the importance of vulnerability.
Days go by so quickly for some and not so quickly for others. Try to remember to take a moment and cheer up someone in the days ahead. One day you may be that person waiting for a card, call or visit. We all can make those moments if only we strive to do so. I'm enjoying cutting some rosebuds today from the yard. They came back from the freeze!
I remember that when my mother was sick, most of my friends knew but they didn't know how to react. So they chose not to say anything, even after she passed away. They always reminded me of how strong I was but they never realized that nobody can't be strong alone in face of this. Communication is the key.
Why is Cancer a taboo word? I wish everybody would feel comfortable enough to talk about it like you talk about the flu.