A friend of mine said to me recently, 'Have you always been this positive?' Which I thought was a funny reaction to a conversation where I was being what I think of as my pretty cynical self. But I think what he was noting was my level of acceptance … and I just can't use all the emotional energy to be angry or frustrated.
I think a lot in my work as a therapist, I had always incorporated a lot of mindfulness techniques to the patients who might be receptive so I did a lot of meditation, I started journaling. And reflecting just a lot on where I am now, what this means to me and what’s next … Because the unknown is too big of a monster to get tangled up in.
I said, 'How do I know I'm stressed because I don't feel stressed?' She said, 'You are really stressed.' She said, 'How many times a day do you either think or say the word asshole?' I was like, 'Oops.' … She said, "You need to really get rid of the assholes." I realized I had to get rid of all the cancers in my life, not just the one in my breast.
I got in the car and I didn't really know where I was going. I had no plans. I drove to the beach. I shut my phone off and I just parked in Atlantic City, on a random street, and just walked a lot … I actually have a sea shell that I picked up that day that I have still and I carried it with me for every chemo. I just needed me time.
You still have bad minutes, bad hours, even bad days. You just can't live there. You can't stay there. Everyone should allow themselves ... I think people feel bad allowing themselves to have bad days. If there's a day you need to just lay in bed all day or lock yourself in your room and play your music or block everybody out it's okay but then tomorrow you can't do that.
I had never heard of TNBC. I knew there was breast cancer, but I did not know the complexity and how many different kinds of breast cancer there were within the actual diagnosis.
After 30 years of real estate, I put the smile on every morning regardless of what was going on in my family life, and I kept going. That's what I do today.
I had always focused on everybody else and always focused on my kids and my wasband and everybody. I was the super woman of the world taking care of everybody. I knew I had to stop and focused on me.
I am at @SXSW today and meeting so many people with cancer stories. They are so exited about Humanly because they want to share stories and connect with others. I am so happy and proud to be part of this movement to help people live their best life.
I was surrounded by my family and friends that watched over me, prayed for me, took me to appts and kept me going emotionally. They just showed up because they knew I would never ask for help. I couldn’t have made it through without them. I started a club of them: SMAD: Sistas Making a Difference. We take care of each other and celebrate life.
Our son Jake was diagnosed with a rare brain tumor at the age of 2. Jake taught us that no matter what the circumstance is, we have to live in the now. Even when the now seems ordinary, and quiet …
Tigerlily Foundation is excited to host its Metastatic Breast Cancer Disparities Listening Summit on 3/20, solely focused on convening and igniting a national conversation focusing on the African-American community, centered on understanding the gaps, misperceptions and barriers to educating young women of color on metastatic breast cancer.
Had the honor of spending the morning with Lauren from Humanly. We got to spread the word about this digital platform on Channel 12 news. It airs on April 27th and May 4th. Check it out here and be sure to listen to my stories and share your own. We are all here to help! https://bit.ly/2WKsUpC
As another Mother's Day approaches I have the same feelings I have towards almost all holidays. Happiness to be alive, sadness for those who aren't, pain for those currently in treatment, and worry if I will make it to the next Mother's Day. I will take a moment in all of the chaos of the day and be thankful to have this time with my family.
My mother used to always tell me "there's a silver lining in every cloud" and the older I get, the more challenges I overcome, the more I believe it to be true. And despite how difficult the silver lining may be to find, even her loss brought light to things I wouldn't have otherwise seen.
Christianna, on Self-care
Losing my mother to cancer taught me the importance of vulnerability.
Days go by so quickly for some and not so quickly for others. Try to remember to take a moment and cheer up someone in the days ahead. One day you may be that person waiting for a card, call or visit. We all can make those moments if only we strive to do so. I'm enjoying cutting some rosebuds today from the yard. They came back from the freeze!
I remember that when my mother was sick, most of my friends knew but they didn't know how to react. So they chose not to say anything, even after she passed away. They always reminded me of how strong I was but they never realized that nobody can't be strong alone in face of this. Communication is the key.
Cancer continues to change my life each day. .sometimes it surely cancels plans which annoys me greatly but then I just say to myself," I'm alive today." We must roll with the flow!
Taking care of yourself is important during the cancer journey. Get up and keep going as much as you can. Be proactive. Know your medication. Review your scan results. Search clinical trials with your oncologist. Encourage others understand not to give up🌹
It was kind of hard when everything was done. I'm no longer going to the doctor's office everyday. My life isn't about sleeping in bed all day. I had so much time to learn about myself again. It was a time to heal myself, mentally, physically, spiritually.
C.C. Scott said " The Human spirit is stronger that anything that can happen to it." Please share on this platform how having cancer has made your spirit stronger,because I know it has mine! Share with others, including spouses,parents, caregivers and siblings.
I have NO cure. I have Triple Negative Metastatic Breast Cancer. I have outlived my prognosis. My side effects are very annoying, but I deal with them. I know we all want to throw in the towel sometimes, but we must pull the string back on the arrow and move forward as best we can. This site is a tremendous way for us to share!
I ask you to Not be Afraid. Not be silent. Share the real story of your cancer journey on this site! It will touch someone, I promise!
I have lots of time. It's what I do with this time that is important. There are many projects I want to finish, so I strive to work on at least one each day. .. letting people know that I love them is the most important.
Four words that changed my life: You have breast cancer. What an awful day that was for me in 2006. Please join this site and tell others about your journey or just lift another person up with a word of encouragement. It will in turn, lift your spirits.
My life has changed dramatically since my cancer diagnosis in 2006.I went from being a productive woman in a lucrative business to a woman who goes to cancer treatment, the drugstore and gas station, but glad to still be alive!!
Cancer can consume you if you let it. Don't let it destroy your human side. Let it make you a better person. Remember, someone didn't wake up this morning, but you did! Push forward, be kind and love big!
Accepting the reality of having cancer is hard to grasp, but we must find the courage to move forward one day at a time and sometimes one second at a time. Having triple negative metastatic cancer for years now, I find that prayers and determination is what has kept me going. Support of family and friends is very important also.
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