Ricki, on Mindfulness

I did such drastic things, got divorced from my husband of 30 years, quit my job, sold my house and moved to the beach on chemo. They think I'm crazy, but I think they don't know what to do and they're stuck, or they have influencers saying, 'Don't do this. Do this. Don't do this.' A lot of it is just turning off the voices. You have to turn off the voices and go find your own voice.

Ricki, on Self-care

I said, 'How do I know I'm stressed because I don't feel stressed?' She said, 'You are really stressed.' She said, 'How many times a day do you either think or say the word asshole?' I was like, 'Oops.' … She said, "You need to really get rid of the assholes." I realized I had to get rid of all the cancers in my life, not just the one in my breast.

Ricki, on Parenting

Amanda had my first grand baby who will be a year old August 16th. Her name is Belle. She is my heart.

Ricki, on Fear

Having breast cancer, stage three triple negative, makes you fearless. I really am fearless. I'll go out in that bay and paddle board anywhere by myself at six o'clock in the morning.

Ricki, on Body

I think before I used to think about how big are my muscles ... I used to wear two pairs of socks because my legs were skinny. I'm more concerned about what am I eating? Am I eating well? Am I sleeping enough? Am I doing the right things to keep myself healthy? As opposed to how I look.

Ricki, on Friendships

Every day is precious. I treasure every opportunity to choose life and have more time in the world with the people that I love and who love me. At Christmas time I just try to spend more time with people that mean something to me and are special.

Alyson, on Friendships

My friend Ricki who's African-American, had triple-negative breast cancer and this has brought us a lot closer and it's a special bond that we share … So that's one of the beautiful things about it is that it ... It's not just a black disease. It's not just a white disease. It affects everyone and we do need to all come together to find a cure.

Ricki, on Body

I think I'm just more aware of my body now. I was a dancer growing up, so I was always sort of aware of my body, but it's a different kind of thing now. You have a different priority. I'm more aware of my body relative to being healthy as opposed to how I look.

Ricki, on Mindfulness

I don't know why people are afraid of disease because everybody has something. Whether it's high blood pressure, diabetes, problems with their weight. Everybody has something in their family, so I really believe families need to talk about it, need to put it out there, need to write it down.

Ricki, on Self-care

I was surrounded by my family and friends that watched over me, prayed for me, took me to appts and kept me going emotionally. They just showed up because they knew I would never ask for help. I couldn’t have made it through without them. I started a club of them: SMAD: Sistas Making a Difference. We take care of each other and celebrate life.

Ricki, on Mindfulness

I seek order, simplicity, and peace, creating space for my blessings to increase.

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