Erika, on Body

I said, 'Really? You wouldn't be embarrassed?' She goes, 'Mom, you're not like Britney Spears who went crazy and shaved her head. You have cancer.' I said, 'Oh.' Eventually they were just like, 'Mom, who cares.' I was like, 'Oh, all right. I thought you guys would care. I was doing it for you.' For Samantha to say that to me it was like very heartwarming.

Erika, on Lifestyle

If I get invited to something or I'm doing something and I really don't want to do it, I don't anymore. So if I'm spending time with you, if you're part of my day, it's because I want it to be that way, not because I feel like it has to be.

Erika, on Parenting

Part of it was my fault again too because I think I made it my goal to not be that sick person and I never missed a track meet or a rehearsal. Their friends still came over. I still drove them everywhere. I still worked, I still ran, I still did pretty much everything I normally did. I don't think they knew.

Erika, on Self-care

I got in the car and I didn't really know where I was going. I had no plans. I drove to the beach. I shut my phone off and I just parked in Atlantic City, on a random street, and just walked a lot … I actually have a sea shell that I picked up that day that I have still and I carried it with me for every chemo. I just needed me time.

Erika, on Self-care

You still have bad minutes, bad hours, even bad days. You just can't live there. You can't stay there. Everyone should allow themselves ... I think people feel bad allowing themselves to have bad days. If there's a day you need to just lay in bed all day or lock yourself in your room and play your music or block everybody out it's okay but then tomorrow you can't do that.

Erika, on Body

Well, I had a haircutting party. I like to party. So I figured, If I'm going to lose my hair, I might as well have a haircutting party to kind of buffer some of the emotions of the whole thing, and if I had everybody around, then maybe it would be a little bit easier to digest, because that's a big thing, the haircutting. So I had a haircutting party.

Erika, on Mindfulness

I think for everybody the holidays are a stressful time, everyone's trying to get presents and parties and people have expectations of the holidays and I think for a lot of people, you set it up to be such a great time … it's also a very emotional time, I think, because you are reflecting on things.

Erika, on Self-care

I had never heard of TNBC. I knew there was breast cancer, but I did not know the complexity and how many different kinds of breast cancer there were within the actual diagnosis.

Erika, on Mindfulness

As much as my husband can try and know, as much as my friends can try and know, and as much as people want to put themselves in my position and have that empathy and sympathy and whatever else for me, unless you've literally been through it, you cannot understand it. You cannot.

Erika, on Self-care

Had the honor of spending the morning with Lauren from Humanly. We got to spread the word about this digital platform on Channel 12 news. It airs on April 27th and May 4th. Check it out here and be sure to listen to my stories and share your own. We are all here to help! https://bit.ly/2WKsUpC

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